The Unspoken Language Of Luxury: Dating Through Subtle Signals

If you’re re-entering the world of dating after some time out of it, you might be feeling slightly out of practice. And you may think you need a refresher on the signals people send to each other to indicate interest, particularly if you’re aiming for the more sophisticated types and prefer to date someone who’s a high-achieving professional. How does this group typically communicate through non-obvious signals?

Equally, what can you do yourself if you want to subtly indicate how you’re feeling about your date?

The reality is that individuals typically transmit clues about their interest via a combination of non-verbal cues and thoughtful communication in a number of ways, and may even often do so subconsciously.

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Here are some of the non-verbal clues to look out for, and maybe use yourself:

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• Eye contact

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Notice whether your date maintains consistent eye contact and (pun intended) keep an eye on whether you’re doing this, too. It shows interest and attentiveness, while making the person you’re talking to feel appreciated.

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• Posture

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An open, engaged posture, for example leaning slightly forward, is another good one. Again, it shows you’re being receptive and attentive. And while you probably already know not to do this, don’t cross your arms, since it can seem quite a hostile gesture.

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• Mirroring

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If you want to build a feeling of rapport and connection, subtly mirror the other person’s body language. Again, you’ll notice if your date is doing this, too. (With this one in particular, don’t be too obvious about it.

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• Facial expressions

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Have the right facial expression according to what the other person is saying, and you’ll probably also notice this in your potential partner. Smiling, nodding to show you’ve understood, or indicating concern (according to context) all convey empathy and engagement. And it may sound obvious but these things also show you’re actively listening, something we all need to do, and probably more often.

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• Verbal cues

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Spoken words clearly convey a message and draw a response from the listener. And they’re obviously also important in a dating situation, just as they are in all human communications.

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Here are some things to think about, and to notice on your date:

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• Tone of voice

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A warm, engaging tone of voice, rather than sounding dismissive or monotonous, is a crucial way of conveying interest. Try to sound natural and confident. It’s also worth avoiding noisy venues, especially in the early stages of a relationship, so that neither of you has to shout.

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• Verbal affirmations

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If you nod and say little words like ‘Right’ or ‘Yes’ or ‘OK’, you show you’re actively listening, and encourage the other person to keep talking. Obviously do this gently, and make sure you’re giving the other person enough opportunity to speak. Is your date doing this, too?

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• Ask the right questions

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It’s a really good sign if your date asks regular follow-up questions to what you’ve been saying. Equally, try to do this yourself. It shows you’re listening and are genuinely interested, while encouraging a deeper, more satisfying conversation.

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• Don’t be distracted

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Again, this may sound very obvious. But you and your date need to be fully present, so turn your phone off and don’t keep looking around the room. After all, this is just basic respect and attentiveness. If your date is constantly distracted, that’s a red flag.

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• Recall details

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If you can remember even minor details from past conversations as you go into your third, fourth, fifth dates and beyond, that shows you value the person and have taken on board what they’ve been saying.

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All of the above demonstrates emotional acuity and intelligence in high-achieving individuals.

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After all, as a high-achieving professional, you probably don’t leave many things to chance. So why do the same with your romantic life?

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